When does someone become a friend?
When does someone go from being an acquaintance to a confidante?
When does someone deserve to hear your secrets and dreams and successes and failures?
I don’t quite know when it happened with Kaylyn, but I’m sure glad it did. Kaylyn visited me in Portland last weekend, and it was most certainly a weekend for the books. Between incredible food, late night bowling, rose gardens, and dancing to Turbulence one too many times, it was the most fun I’ve had in Portland thus far.
Kaylyn and I have been friends since 6th grade. We navigated the awkward middle school years together, survived AP classes, and graduated from our respective colleges to enter the real world.
The truth about friendship is this: If someone respects you and loves you for who you were, who you are, and who you will become, that person is a keeper. They may not agree with every decision you make. They may not understand why you did this or that. You might not talk to them on a regular basis or know what they’re up to every night, but there is an unspoken bond of love and support.
The word friend is precious. It should be reserved for individuals that add value to your lives, not bring you down. It should describe a person that is genuinely interested in your well-being, not your downfall.
People say that the difference between friends and family is that we can choose our friends. While this is true, strive to create friendships that develop into family. Love your friends and cherish your friendships. Find someone or a group of someones that will better you and encourage you.
This past weekend was a welcoming reminder of the beauty of friendship. Kaylyn and I have been friends for over a decade, and she still makes me laugh until I almost pee myself. She gives insight to complicated situations, and she refuses to settle for a mediocre life.
I believe that some people are meant to be in our lives for only a short period of time, while others are meant for a lifetime. Surround yourself with people that allow you to let your guard down- that allow you to be who you truly are, imperfections and all.
“Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.” -Aristotle